Isn't part of the DB process developing self-esteem, strength and attractiveness?
How attractive is someone who says, "Hey you cheated on me. No big deal"?
In some sense, I feel that capitulating to the lie that our spouses claim (the affair was OK, it's no big deal) will erode our self-esteem and our self-repect.
Don't our wives want men with backbone? If we don't respect ourselves, how will they be attracted to us?
This doesn't mean I don't believe in forgiveness. I'm big on grace. But reconcilation requires repentance.
