What I struggle with is what Mel posted. Am I just hyper sensitive now and she's really just being how she's always been? And if so, why do I now have a problem with it?
I posted before, but it probably needs repeated, my W has always had a hard time opening up to me. Even when she liked me. About once every six months or so she would let herself be vulnerable with me. So I know it's got to be terrifying for her now. And she's just like her mom. Total stone with her emotions. I'm sure that's why OM was so attractive. Because all it was was fantasy, she could let herself go because there were no expectations. Just passion. Ok, I just had a little puke come up in my throat when I said that.....
You know the first thought that entered my mind after reading this part of your post and knowing that you have a fear of having a conversation like this....If you had a IC, then email it to him/her but cc it to wife but then call her and say I sent something to my councelor but it accidentally also was sent to your email account. Its private between the councelor and me so please don't read that email just delete it.
You know she will read it and then you can see how she will react.
