OK Cinders, I believe you, mostly because you aren't angry, lol. It's like I told you that you were selling swamp land to martians, you just find my suggestion off-the-wall. If instead you were pissed-off and defensive, I'd know pretty well that I'd hit the mark.
Anyway, with the HIV stuff, my point was only to let you know that a negative test now does not put you in the clear. Thus, it would be nice for you to find out your "friend's" HIV status if he is willing to cooperate. A lot of people who have been off-the-market for awhile have a bit of a learning curve when it comes to this STD stuff.
As for whether H can "take it," that is really irrelevant. It still does not seem healthy for you to involve him in your sex life. For one thing, he is in an R with someone else, I believe. It really isn't appropriate for you to be telling a man who is in a romantic R with another woman about who you sleep with, is it?
