Yoyo,

I looked at Saffie's recommendation. Looks like an interesting book.

Again, Yoyo, you don't need to change, but it you want this marriage to work you must. I think the changes you need to make will re-spark the attraction in your husband. Remember there are tons of men who would love a woman like you, but if you want The King of Hill, change is in order.

--Theoden