One that I have to assume points out some sort of deficiency in me, otherwise I wouldn't be having to repeat this lesson.
Jimbo, there is no deficiency in you. You are a great guy who has been dealt the wrong cards twice. Don't let these experiences take away from the great future you have in front of you.
So what if you have been down this path before, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. Whether being married or dating, we go through these things. If I looked at my dating record I would surely think I was destined to a long life of being alone. My track record was not great. You put these things to the side (once you have had time to heal) and you move on.
Grieve for your marriage but don't blame yourself. You are the victim here but you will survive this.
HAHAHA!!!!!! Why Merlin! I was just musing on you and your wisdom only moments ago! Let me tell you what I've learned in a little bit- be right back...
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
I can only picture the scenario in which you posted that vent/rant of yours earlier.
I can only hope that came from sitting in your Strawberry Shortcake PJ's, having a little too much drink ( shine?) , and just shutting off Steel Magnolias on your antique beta vision......
Because I know that is NOT how you really feel about Jimbo......
Perspective ? Yes you have had to deal with this twice. But to make the difference, and not wallow in the " self-pity hot tub" ( yard is too small for a pool ), you must, and do, realize that how YOU handle this makes the difference. And it shouldn't make any difference to anyone but Jimbo, and your blue hat .
Ahh you just can't quit me T2SP. Our expereinces are a bit different, we aren't always going to see eye to eye or agree, plus you're a woman, so I'm usually wrong. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Yours is probably silicone instead of gelatine......and that is how I know.....
J E L L O
Hey, if I could buy you for what you know and turn around and sell you for what you think you know. I would never have to work again. Just so you know....