Same thing happened to me. Wife was having affair but had me removed from house by police and charged me with physical abuse . Not one documented incident , her parents were at our house every single day to put our children on the bus . They would have saw something . I was getting closer to the truth and she panicked and now I'm out . Tales of the affair have been mounting and I filed for divorce . She dropped charges because she had no case . I exposed her affair to the OM's wife to level the playing field . I hear he has since dumbed her . Too F---ing bad. My therapist told me that they feel guilt and will try and defelct the guilt onto you , don't let her . I was a mother and father to our children while she pursued her Ph.D . Did all the housework too . Now , like you , I'm a monster . Karma baby , karma .