Stepping out and Stepping UP!

[tpaschal]

Cagz,

I don't know the story of the weekend you mentioned or the flowers, but if he's saying anything to your daughter about you having a "main man," that proves he has thought about it. Maybe it's just that he's curious, but I bet it bothers him more than you think.

What I've noticed with my exH since the MLC started is that anything that's not important to him, even if it's of extreme importance to me, his kids, his colleagues, etc.---just flies right out of his head like he never knew about it. So to me, the fact that your ex mentioned it to your daughter means it is percolating around in his head. If it really didn't matter to him at all, he wouldn't have commented about it.

Maybe he's not extremely jealous, and not jealous enough to make any changes in himself, but I've noticed that these guys still seem to be possessive, even in the midst of MLC and OW. They may tell you to get out and find yourself a new man, but they don't think you actually will. And when you do---I think it surprises them that they don't like it.

I'm not saying this to get your hopes up or anything like that, but I don't want you to get down on yourself, being sad that it doesn't bother him. You are an awesome woman, and deep down he knows it.

He may never be strong enough or healed enough to try to regain a relationship with Awesome You!, but somewhere deep inside, he knows the truth.