Reset the counter! I told her earlier in the day I want D4 asleep early so we can go to bed early together. She even wore something sexy for me and I didn't even ask her to! It was quite symbolic of the way things were, since we bought it together maybe two years ago and she never got around to wearing it. She said "why does this still have the tags on it?" Gee, I wonder? lol.
Things are still changing between us. She wanted to make me happy tonight, which is something I haven't seen in her since we were dating.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
I have been following your threads. I feel like I am in a similar situation as you but that you are a bit further along than me. I have had problems in my relationship and thus sex became very infrequent and also not nearly as exciting as it once was. I think (or hope) we've made some decent progress fixing the relationship issues but our sex life hasn't recovered. And it hurts. It was my birthday this weekend. When she asked what I wanted you can probably guess what I said. She giggled about it and seemed agreeable at the time but my birthday passed and nope - didn't get the present I was hoping for and wanted most. Bumms me out major but I doubt she'll notice and don't really think she cares if it does.
Keep working at it.... your giving me some hope even though I have less than I wish I did.
Well hang in there, at least she giggled! Prior to DBing, my W would roll her eyes and act annoyed if I asked.
I don't believe it is because they don't care as much as don't realize how important it is to us, and the effect on the R when it is lacking.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
How long did you work on your R before you felt comfortable enough to start fixing your lack of physical intamacy?
Burt
Burt,
It took two full months of DBing for my W to believe I really was changing. I am lucky in that she is an extremely sensitive and caring person who was under a lot of stress when she wanted to leave. By alleviating her stress, and making changes to things she told me I could never change, it really made an impact on her. Still, two months felt like an eternity, as anyone who has been hit by a bomb knows.
Let me track down my threads and you can read through them if you are interested.
Spellfire aka Mike
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A
I'm summing up the posts from me, you, Cinco, and DQ... There must have been some kind of full moon or mercury in retrograde this weekend. Haha! It was an all play!
Thank God we're making progress instead of finding ourselves in divorce court.
