Hello everyone, 2 weeks ago My Husband and I had sex and cuddles up all afternoon, 10pm that night he decided he no longer loved me. He just said it. I'm devastated. I've lost a stone and had to go to the doctors for sleeping tablets.
There is no one else, he wouldn't have the time. He assures me that he is not fond or thinking about anyone else. I was a total mess, crying begging the first day, since then I've read just about every book on this subject but nothing, not even DR shows how to react when they say they don't know why they don't love you.
I made sure every night last week that I was out the house when he came home. He is texting asking what I want for dinner but no affection.
I know you guys must have heard this all before but we were the couple everyone said were the most loving, well suited. We used to go to bed together and texted loads of time each day.
I feel like I'm in mouring it's so bad.
He has been married before, his w left him. She is always in the background as he pays her his pension in the deal they had. I admit this ha always bugged me but he says its not that. I believe him. He doesn't bother at all about her.
He has just sold his business (he hated it, made him miserable) he has made a fortune and now in a job 3 weeks which he says he loves. There was a 6 week delay in getting the money and he was very stressed about that, the week leading up to this he was waking at 3am in the morning. He used to say that I made everything better and sometimes he would just look at me and say I love you so much.
He wanted to emigrate last year and we visited the place he wanted to go, I was very unsure about it but said I'd go anywhere with him, he kept saying I needed to want to go. Then a week before he tells me he no longer loves me he said we would forget about emigrating as the housing market was not stable. We don't have any kids either.
He said he is not depressed and I don't think he is, he seems happy enough. He said it's killing him how much he has hurt me. I just want to hold him again.
We both had good social circle with own friend and each other. I just can't understand. I've spent a fortune on buying e-books but it's all mind games.
I asked him to dinner sat night (last night here) and he was miserable and bit drunk, moaned about everything.
I asked to discuss things today and he said that he still has no idea why he feels like this but that he wants to try sort it. His words were 'I think we have to try don't we'. He said even if he didn't want to try he would for me because I asked him to.
He is sleeping in spare room and I said I hoped that we would be able to sleep in same room again but that I realised this was very hard for him too. He is still not sleeping well, I hear him up during the night. He feels it's too soon to be in same room because he doesn't want to keep me up.
I have a concert on Wed but said I'd cancel it for the counsellor but he said it would do me good to get out. He really is a decent respectful man so I;m now worried that he is trying to help me out this marriage. I feel like I've been torn apart.
I know it will be a slow slow process but I just don't know where to start.
Sorry this is so long
Should add we met 5 years ago and married 3 years ago.
