Good job on the texting! It is easy to use the baby as means of futher conversation, but you know if there were any problems that she would tell you, so yes, it is a form of pursuing.
Glad you went to visit Rob's thread. He will lift your spirits. You have to be sold on yourself before you can sell yourself to anyone else. That is what we do when we come in contact with people. We are "selling ourselves" to them to like and respect. So, we have to believe in ourselves first. We have to respect ourselves, really feel good about who we are. That comes across loud and clear in our body language and every other way.
Keep doing the work. You are getting there.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!