Thanks, folks. Well, D16 admitted to me that her eating and purging are worse than ever. Ugh! She wants to go back to her eating disorder group. She has not seen STBX in a week, because the "Parenting Plan" calls for me to have her the entire February break. Ugh......
She wants to go back - that is a huge step for her, isn't it, that she is recognizing what she needs? Is this the group that she has to go live with, or the support group that is local?
I wish there was a way that we could make the other's see what their actions are doing - but there isn't. No one will see what they don't want to see.
So it is up to us, F, to do as much as we can. We see it, so the burden falls to us. Try not to waste time or energy wailing on stbx - direct all of that into doing all you can for your kids. D18 back at school? How is your son - hockey season almost over?
Thanks, Michelle and Donna. STBX's lawyer should have all of my financial documents by now. I have not asked her or my lawyer ($$$$$$ per phone call or email!)what's going on, but I am SO SICK of living in limbo! I WANT THIS TO BE OVVVEEERRRRR! I can't wait to un-as& STBX. She is MISERABLE!
On a good note, things continue to be great with GymWoman!
FLTC, I also was able to get info from the paralegal in the office without being charged. Of course, she couldn't give legal advice, but she kept me updated on communication w the other lawyer. I thought your lawyer was working for free!
Thanks. I talked with the paralegal today. Here's the note I got from "STBXpsychobi^chfromhel@"
If you want to move this divorce along you and your attorney are going to have to decide that you are willing to negotiate the financial settlement. There is no way I can afford to take care of the kids and maintain the house for them on the money you are currently sending me. So we have two options as I see it. We can take this through a long and expensive trial or you can approachmy attorney and me with a willingness to talk about a different arrangement. Since you appear to have taken a non-negotiable position I have no other option than to take this to litigation. Any other option is your call. If I hear from my attorney that you are interested in a less combative approach I’m willing to give that one more shot but it’s all up to you.
The paralegal told me that she's out of her mind if she'll be getting much more from me than what the mediator suggested. I have these figures and have reduced her payments to what the mediator suggested.
ah the threats... I remember those. From what I remember you gave her pretty much all your money, she is nuts if she thinks she legally deserves that much.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
