{{{Pearl}}} I'm with ya!! We are solidarity sisters after all (fist in the air LOL)!! Yep..my cats love me, my kids love me, I have great friends who love me..anything else is just icing on the cake eh?
Tawnya
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Do I respond to xBF's pathetic email? Here are the options as I see them:
1) Respond to some of the specifics as outlined by Gucci. 2) Respond by saying, "You're still seeing OW. We have nothing to discuss." 3) Ignore it.
Thoughts?
No doubt we will have some contact this week since he still needs to pick up the furniture and the issue with the bank accounts still needs to be resolved.
[FYI - He did leave me a check for some money and signed the check for next month's allowance. Since some of you were asking, I think I figured out why he couldn't just write a check for the whole amount. It's coming from an investment account so the only way to get the money out is to transfer or cash out the funds. He wrote a check to me from his regular checking instead.]
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
I vote for #2 - I've tried #1 SO many times, and it's gotten me nowhere because, as you've seen first hand, it typically is a guilty or drunk moment.
#3 - that's also optional; it would serve to show him in no uncertain terms that it's NOT just the OW, but the fact that his letter was really crappy. #3 would be my choice if you really are "over" him.
Good question Pearl..definitely not #1 because I think he would try to spin it around and point out how it wasn't meant that way, blah blah, no win sitch..#2 would work since that is the stance you've taken all along..and #3 also works and maybe makes him wonder? Hmmm....
So..how was your afternoon yesterday?? Did you enjoy yourself?
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
I forgot another option, sort of a 1A) laugh and tell him just how lame and pathetic I found it. Ok, I know I can't really do that but it makes me happy to think about doing it.
Tawnya, I did have a good time at the movies. I saw the Oscar nominated short films, both animated and live. The theater was packed since it's the only place showing them and it was a smallish room. Another bonus of being single, it's easy to find one seat in a good location rather than trying to find two together!
Oh, and I did go to Ross. Returned a couple pairs of shoes I bought for Vegas and didn't use and also got some cute new bras. Too bad for xBF that he'll never see them.
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If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Pearl..yes it IS always easier to find one seat isn't it?? LOL..I'm glad you had FUN! Ha about the bras..yeah..we have a "newer" store in the mall called Aerie (it's an offshoot of American Eagle" that has some really cute stuff I have gotten..
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I have my own eventful weekend going on. Check it out when you can. I took some strong steps, need support and validation when you can. I think there is something going on in the universe.
Finally done with watching the Oscars and telling the whole sordid tale to my friend A who knew something was going on but not the details. I was feeling bad for not telling her since our other mutual friends know, but I was trying to keep them out of it because her H and xBF are somewhat friendly (although they haven't spoken in over a year). Plus it was nice to have someone to talk to as a distraction without having to get into any of the details. Good thing is that A's H said he has independent friendships with me and xBF (he is a former coworker of mine) so he doesn't feel like he has to choose sides. Of course A is my friend looks like I'll get to keep them in the split.
Anyway, I know most people think I should either reply to xBF's email with a "While you're still having an A we have nothing to discuss" line or just ignore it altogether.
So I'm going to post here what has been running through my mind of what I want to say to him, or at least some of it.
You cheated on me and lied about it, to my face and to others. And you continue to be involved in this affair. I want to be with someone I trust, someone who doesn't lie to me and hurt me. You obviously are not that type of man.
You also told me that you stayed with me because it was easier than leaving. I will never be with someone again who feels that way about our relationship. I tried and tried with you, but I can now see that it just wasn't working for us. I want to be with someone who loves me and WANTS to be with me and isn't just staying because it is easier on him.
I want and deserve to be with someone who I feel is my best friend. We never had that.
And if your message is a representation of your feelings for me and our relationship then it's just not enough for me, not even close.
Ok, feels good to write it down. Off to bed.
Last edited by pearlharbr; 02/23/0908:10 AM.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
{{{Pearl}}} Thought about you as I saw the Oscar highlights and wondered what you thought of Ms "in black" Angelina vs Ms "in white" Jennifer? Some of the dresses were gorgeous!
OK..can I totally borrow that letter to respond back?? If I would ever be faced with that, THAT is exactly how I feel about the situation..all I can say is WOW!! That is awesome and you SHOULD totally feel that way about yourself..you are well worth it!
Hugs!
Tawnya
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