"I just worry that off the cuff advice to snoop is going to cause pain for others."
I don't know that it is "off the cuff" advice. It somewhat depends on the "motive". DB.. does address this. It is a very "hard" line to follow. It has a lot to do with "your" frame of mind. For it to work.. it cannot be "vindictive" or "try to get them back".. "prove them wrong". You would be "guarding". It's hard to explain.. and I hate long posts.
"You have a very large ego my friend."
People that "know".. sometimes come across like that.. I have been accused of having a "Big Ego". But.. it just comes down to how you "see" things. Puppy's "Ego" can work. He has proven that. Will it always work.. No. Neither will my "Ego". That is the beauty.. of this "place". Take what you can.. leave what does not fit.
"Person: I just don't know what is going on with my spouse, they are distant and cold. I can't figure it out. More of the usual stuff here...
Puppy: Could be an affair, install a key logger"
You always have to start somewhere.. with a poster. Get a feel for where they are. Then maybe you can direct them. Don't hate the "player".. hate the "game".
We all (old timers) start somewhere.. and let the poster lead. Don't get drawn into.. they (old timers/random poster) are wrong. If they are.. or you think they are.. state your case.
Nothing wrong with that.
I like stand out people.. Puppy is one.. and you are too. Best I can tell you is throw some of that "Emotion" at a post. Discuss within the confines of a post.. it will be more productive.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
