Hi lost, your H is extremely emotionally & verbally abusive. You deserve to be treated soooooooooooo much better.

Can you find a counselor who can help you develop some assertiveness & self-esteem.

My Doctor has been working with me specifically for assertiveness for about 1 year. It has made a huge difference.

Also, Bridge is giving you EXCELLENT advice. One thing I want to add is that when H & I used to fight, if it got heated, & I thought it was going to go physical, I'd say I had to go to the bathroom. I'd lock myself in there for 15-20 mins.

It just gave me time to clear my head, & him to calm down.

I'm glad you found us.

Hugs

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.