Hi All,
I am so sorry for taking so long to post. Lodo,Breton39, FaithfulH and 25yearsmlc, I really do appreciate the feedback.

When I first started dating my wife, she had a big trust issue with men. Not only because of what her father did to her mom (father shot mom and then himself), but also because of a bad relationship she had gotten out of. During that dating stage, I treated her like she was a delicate rose. I would always tell her that I would wait for her and that we would knock down that wall brick by brick. During that stage I felt it was a privilege to demonstrate each day how much I loved her and how I could be trusted. I guess I feel like I am back at that stage again - only this time my love for her is greater and I am more determine to use each day to show her how much I love and really care for her. It amazes me and I really can't describe it in words, but I feel a love for her that is willing to do whatever it takes to make her happy.

Well, let me go back several days to recap what has happened.

Last Wednesday I was offered the position and got a 33% increase in pay. Before I accepted, I call the wife up and explained to her what this meant if we accepted the offer. Mainly that I won't be able to pick up our daughter as much from the daycare. I told my wife that she and our daughter our my priority and that I am not going to allow work to interfere with that or to come before them. At first she was like, well, "I guess time will tell". But then she told me, "wow, you are really serious about not going back to your old self." I told her that work, $$$ and education are just not that important to me anymore and that the only thing that matters is family. She then tells me, "well, if we ever get back together, this would be a great opportunity for all of us." I leaped for joy when I heard that. Keep in mind, about a month ago she told me that she would never get back with me. Now it is "if" instead of never.

Over the weekend, we were running errands and while we were on the road, she told me if you decide to buy a house, be sure to consider having an extra room just in case we decide to get back together and want to have another child. Then over dinner she tells me "how do I know that version 2.0 is not going to come back." (version 1.0 is the nice me, the person my wife fell in love with; version 2.0 is the mean me, the person who neglected the family - I guess that is our little way of addressing the issue in playful matter). She then tells me, "I need to know in case of if." She didn't finish the sentence and I asked her in case of what. She was like, "well, in case we get back together." I told her that version 2.0 was a faulty product that was recalled and that right now she has been chosen to test version 3.0, which is still in beta but almost ready for production.

Today I came over to help her paint one of her rooms in her loft and it was so much fun. We were playful and even started paint each other with our brushes. Lately, we have been falling a sleep together on the phone and things just seem like that are really going good right now. I know that I still go a lot of work to do and that now is the time for me to really step my game up and continue to love her the way she needs to be loved.

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So maybe you can trust a little bit more in the things that initially attracted her to you. You Know, flirt a little bit. Do you already?


Yes, the last two months I have started to be more flirtatious and playful around her. I always try to be upbeat and confident around her. At first I was a little rusty, but definitely getting better and more natural at it.

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Wow. Now don't tell me that isn't progress. Wow is all I can say.


Wow is all I can say too - especially these last few days. I feel like I am falling in love with her all over again. I know that there is still a long road ahead, but to see progress being made is just amazing and all I can do is thank God for his grace and mercy.

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I (and I bet you) expected God was still at work in your sitch


Yes, even when I am faithless, He is still faithful. This journey has really caused me to recognize my need for God. I could not have made it this far without Him and need Him even more in journey ahead.

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We really want security from a man...To compensate and reassure her that her biggest fear; being deserted in a time of need, is Now unfounded


That sense of safety and security, that I am never going to leave her ever again is what I am striving to proof. I know that she is going to need time, but she is worth it. I love my wife so much and thank you for believing in me. I do not take it lightly what I did and I know that I did a lot of damage.

With this new position, it is so important that she sees me not neglecting her or our daughter. I am more determined to be there for the family and to show her that I am serious. Well, talk to you soon (and hopefully sooner than what I've been doing)