I think people mean well. I really think people don't want us to be hurt. Most people don't believe in this method that dbing advocates. Frankly, I'd rather not go down the angry route. I think there is too much to lose telling them 'if you don't want this relationship, get out'.
My roommate feels that I should sit A down and tell him how I feel. And if he doesn't agree, then I should tell him 'don't call me anymore, don't ask me for any advice, pretend you never met me, and I wish I never met you'. He thinks that is good. Even thinking about going down that path gives me heartburn!!!
I am going to stick with my plan. Thinking that people feel sorry for me gives me a feeling of grief. I know that my roommate is skeptical of people all the time. I am never that way. He always tries to read people from the beginning. I usually just like them or I don't. He always thinks people have a motive. He doesn't trust. I don't think that he's that successful with relationships. He's just a man.
