I know the idea of DBing is that one person can change the relationship. But, if two people make an effort, the change can be unbelievable. The hard thing is to get that agreement to do it. And that is where Retrouvaille is so effective. Your kids are old enough to take care of themselves and the house for a weekend. Mine did. So there is no reason you can't go away together for less than 48 hours.
What they teach there cannot be synopsized in a post. But I do have a thread with a lot of info on it. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1716627&page=0&fpart=1 And Puppy Dog Tails and his wife went to Retro this weekend. So he should be posting about his experience either tonight or tomorrow. Another thread you can look it by Another Nightmare. They went about over Valentine's weekend. http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1719676 and if you search his earlier threads you will see his sitch before Retro. A marriage of over 20 years deserves the effort of at least one weekend of your lives.