Kassie,

From reading this thread I think that you and your husband would really benefit from what Retrouvaille has to offer. You can check their website at http://www.helpourmarriage.org. My husband and I went two years ago, and we were having problems a lot like yours. But the weekend really opened both of our eyes about how to get along with each other. Three years ago today, he was having an affair and plotting a divorce. Today, because I am sick, he made me a chicken soup, and cleaned the kitchen after. These things would have been unbelievable back then. Now they don't even surprise me. And we owe it all to Retrouvaille. On our own, we would have gotten divorced.