H left few more messages that I just listened to: He says in a loud but not yelling mode that if we are to ever work this M out two things have to happen - 1- we need to forgive each other, 2- we need to be able to do things for each other whether we like it or not. He adds that he doesn't see that happening with the kids there because they get in the way of my being able to do for him what he wants.
I will not respond because he should be thinking how to apply to the sitch himself. Somehow he just can't see that he has to do this for me and for us. He only sees what he wants me to do for him.
