I know we do a lot of "what ifs" in life. And I know a lot of people who live by "if it feels good do it", I like what you added to that saying about either working at getting it back there or letting it go.
I believe life is about making choices, the process being more important than the choice itself and the outcome at times. I also believe that if we don't like the outcome we can make another choice. I am trying to figure out what the learning is about here in my sitch. And I want to learn - but I am not always certain that what every one else wants is what is best for me. I made a lot of choices in my younger years based on others and didn't like the outcome for myself. I have been trying to stir clear of asking others' opinions in my case because I am the one who has to live with the outcome. With my current M I have been gradually asserting control over what is important to me, what I know to be right, and what takes care of me. I really did want to be helpful to my H and his problem, but it seems that he blocks every opportunity to be helpful.
Anyway, I am a bit shaken, but as you said, this was coming and now it is behind us. I was clear with him and we will see what happens.
