We're just bluff calling right now. He said I'll leave, I said go, H said what will you do if I don't? So he isn't going anywhere. Again.
I can rag on him and force him out that way. That's not who I am, but probably all it would take is to keep asking him to talk with me about our issues. He considers that a fight. I can blow it open and talk to anyone who wants to know what's been going on with us, including my family. I can take legal action.
How else do I put clout into my words and enforce change?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.