New thread uh, well as long as I remain Queen - 6 months and counting. Sunday afternoon and I can't seem to get around to answering my H's request from last Wednesday. Maybe now that I have some time - oops, no, I need to remove the leaf that just blew onto the porch.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
Ok, the leaf is gone. Now I need to clip that hangnail, move the magazines from one side of the coffee table to the other, go to the store for a pack of gum, ............
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
LOLOL Silver..and don't forget you need to wash your hair, let it air dry..and by then you'll have to see the sunset, make dinner, wash dishes..etc, etc
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
It is my turn to screw up - H called and I got into a convo that ended up bad. Calmed down, called back to apologize for what happened on my part and it went bad again. Can't gain any positive ground. You can read my thread for more info.
Perhaps I should be kicked out of the club or does anyone know where the refresher courses are?
I have to vent a little on here, if you've read my thread, you will know all about the toxic BFF that my W has become a clone of. Well I just hope I NEVER see her, because if I do, I will have a lot of very nasty things to say. I am absolutely livid that she feels she can make comments to MY children. I've never hated anyone in my life, and never wished ill on anyone either, but I sincerely wish this pathetic excuse for a human being, the worst luck ever for the remainder of her miserable existance.
Another thing S21 told me, was that when he walked into W's house last night, it was like looking at 2 identical twins sitting at opposite sides of a table.
I've told W many times how things were going and that she was losing her own identity. Well it's truly gone now. One thing that W would never. ever do, is to let anyone else criticise her children. Now she is not only allowing it, but attacking them for standing up for themselves. S23 said to me today, that both him and his brother are starting to resent their mother. They know she left me, but have so far, felt that they were still important to her. It's so sad to see that they are feeling pushed away and isolated.
The bottom of W's world is starting to crack and break up, it will soon fall out and I am grateful that I am not there to see it.
I still want to call her and tell her again that there is no way that toxic 'thing' should be even in the same room as mu kids, let alone talk to them. I said in my thread that I wouldn't though and I won't. Out of respect for my 2 boys more than anything.
I really hoped that I would never feel anger like this towards W.
{{{{Silva}}}}} Ugh..I think in a way, in all honesty, it's probably healthy to HAVE the anger, vent it out, and, at the point when you are ready to, LET it go..for yourself..of course you know that..but just a gentle friendly reminder!
Unfortunately, our spouses have to deal with consequences for their actions and it sounds like your wife will/is having to deal with those with your sons..hopefully she will see this sooner rather than later and attempt to mend those fences with them..
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
{{{{Kass}}} I think if I'm allowed a mess up, you are totally allowed one too!! It's okay..girl you can't go back and change what has already happened..so BREATHE..wait..BREATHE again..ok..one more BREATHE for good measure!
Ok..so now..you already 2x4'd yourself..yeah..and I've done the exact same thing in the past, mess up, try to apologize and make it worse. SO..the moral is, a) don't talk in the first place and b) if you have to and/or something bad happens, just let it sit for the 24-48 hr rule, see how you feel and then send a text or email or something..a lot easier to reply calmly and breathe if you need to that way..than in the spur of the moment anger!
Sorry I missed your SOS cry earlier!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
H left two messages last night and one this morning. I didn't answer any. He still wants to talk about how to move forward. But if you read my thread you will see there is a catch. Waiting before responding.
