My problem is how to enforce a schedule on someone without a home! At this point I figure all I can do is document when he is actually with the kids, so that whenever we figure out our REAL custody terms I have a track record to base them on, not a theoretical 50/50 split...
So, this morning MIL calls. She had invited us over for dinner tonight after Nathan's karate. I was going to decline for myself, but have Dan take the kids over so I could have the evening free....
Well she called to say she is too tired to have us for dinner and to, in her words, "rescind the invitation"...She had her last chemo treatment last week and it is catching up with her.
I said no problem, of course, what else can you say?
Then, Dan called 30 minutes later, as we were ready to load up for church. (He was going to meet us at church) Well, he was sick as a dog, he said. His voice sounded like he was a 6 pack a day smoker.... He has had 'the crud' for a couple weeks now and he said it was really bad this morning, he was going to try to get to a clinic somewhere, etc...
So he didn't come to church with us. And when I told Nathan, he said, "But dad was going to take me to grandma's (MIL) to play Wii after church, he told me he would!" So I got to be the bad guy and cancel that....
I called my mom and she and my dad took the kids from me after church, they will keep them 3 more hours so I can get some work done.
I don't know how to enforce the boundaries, I guess. When Dan says he is too sick to come to church and his mom is too sick to have us for dinner, what am I supposed to say? MIL is Dan's back-up and neither of them were available today. Sigh.........
OH and after church I saw his tape measure on the floor of my passenger seat, he rode with us to the home show yesterday and must have left it. I ran it by his house after church to stick it in his front door, I figured he was at the doctor. Nope, he was hard at work on his house. So the only thing he was too sick for was his family.
