Picked up the kids yesterday. She had been trying to communicate with me during the day but I ignored the calls...Just waited until it was time to pick the kids up to communicate with her.
She initially started in on her friendly routine when I came in. I wasn't overly warm, not nasty but cooler than I have been recently. Particularly in light of her recent activities outside of the marriage. I was very engaging with the kids.
She wanted to talk with about her car (which we can't afford) and how the lender was ready to come get it. I told her we can't afford it but didn't offer any solutions as she refuses to work at finding a job. She told me she intends to work for a company she interviewed at earlier I just listened.
She seemed putoff my lack of chatiness. It seemed to have an effect, what effect I have no idea. So I think I will stay with it for awhile. Cool not nasty or impolite. Take away the aspect of communication that was in our R before and see how it goes.
I didn't reveal I know about her trolling with other M at all. I think waiting and watching is the better course for now.
I am going to work on detaching now and it seems to be getting a little easier. Still hard but I will keep a healthy distance from her while I monotor her activities.
Additional suggestions to try are always welcome!
V
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
