Just found another chance to write to you. I'm sorry my message was so quick before. Weekends are tough because my hubby is home, he doesn't know I post here, and our computer is in the family room.
My hunch is that it's going to be hard for YOU to convince him that sex is important for each of you as individuals and for your marriage. I'm glad he is in therapy so that he is actively working on himself. Of course, the therapist has to be a good one. Have you tried couples therapy or sex therapy?
Please pick up Passionate Marriage and read that after you read the SSM and SSW books. Maybe your husband would consider reading the books too? They're easy to get through. Passionate Marriage is much more difficult and takes a long time to read, but I found the information so helpful. Not only did it help me feel strong, it helped me to articulate what I want in our marriage as well as note some things about myself that I never realized.
Again, welcome to the board.
I hope DanceQueen contributes to your thread soon. She has been down quite a road herself, and she knows how to guide us newbies into a productive mindset.
