Another Wife Rising From The Bomb's Ashes

[Tawnya]

{{Silver}}} and {{{Silva}}} Actually I'm totally enjoying the "whatever stage" myself

[pearlharbr]

Yeah, I think it occurred to me since that's what I seem to say about anything xBF says or does these days.

[Tawnya]

Pearl..I hear ya my "solidarity sister" LOLOL!!

Had a pretty quiet day, survived my "hour of no communication with the outside world" (okay..so a little melodramatic, but no internet anyway LOL), daughter was working, so I didn't even go OUT of the house except to run my son, Mr Video Game, to Blockbuster to get a new game, made dinner (tacos), and then just chilled and talked on the computer A great way to spend the day/evening, if I do say so myself!!

Tawnya

[silvagod]

Really?.....you had a good time talking to a computer?

T, you do need to get out more...

[lost_in_space]

(((Tawnya)))

Hi there sweetie. Will catch up on your (and many others) sitches in the next few days, but wanted to stop by and say hi and thanks for checking on me during my transition phase as I was AWOL.

Take care.

[Tawnya]

{{{Silva}}} yeah..ok..let me CORRECT what I said..I had a good time last night talking to a friend who was talking to me ON the computer (the British and their need for correction LOL)..that was much too long to type I do need to get out more, for sure, but it was nice to just be home and enjoying myself last night!

{{{{Lost}}}}} Aww thank you for stopping by and I am so glad you did!! I hope you are doing well and I look forward to reading your update!!

Tawnya

[JDOllie]

Hello, sweetie pie! Hope you're having a good weekend!

[Tawnya]

{{{JD}}} I am actually..it's been very nice, fun, and relaxing Sounds like yours is good too!

[VeronicaV]

Tawnya,

Thank you so much for all of the support you have been giving me while in the midst of your own difficult time.

I think you are handling things with amazing grace and dignity, as you always do. I remain impressed by your indomitably positive attitude. You inspire me.

Thank you.
V.

[Tawnya]

{{{V}}} I just left your thread..funny how that happens Thank YOU..I love the thought that I have grace and dignity..that makes me very happy to think I come across that way, because that is the way I WANT to be

Interestingly, I just came from your thread, which I suggest anyone take a look at if they haven't, otherwise what I am gonna say may not make sense LOL!! (hasn't stopped me before however!) Anyway..V was talking about things she learned about relationships based on a past hurt, i.e. her father dying at a young age and "abandoning her"..which got me to thinking about my own "abandonment" issues and perhaps why I would tend to be clingy in the past, working on it!, and more dependent:

My parents separated/divorced when I was young, like around age 8, and my sister was maybe 1. The details are a bit sketchy to me, but, not long afterwards my mom was in a car accident and was fine, but broke her leg or something, and couldn't drive me to school, so I ended up staying with my dad for an extended period of time. After that, I went back home and was, of course, crying for my dad. So (and I am sure there is more to it than this) my mom let me go with my dad and my sister stayed with my mom. Then, as I grew up, my mom moved far away to Florida and I rarely, if ever saw her. There would be times she would say she was coming to visit and not make it, not show up for whatever reason. Anyway, so it got to the point where I KNEW she would let me down.

As I got older, it took moving back to close to her (which we have a great relationship NOW, but not what it should be really), for me to realize how clingy/dependent I was toward her and my hub too. I worked thru a lot of "how could any mom leave her child, even if it's with their dad", "why didn't she want to see me" all the "fun" self-worth issues. I really had to come to the conclusion that, even if it's just ME here, I have to be okay with that and, for the most part, I am.

Of course, also as V said, I don't think there is anything WRONG with not wanting to be alone and/or wanting to be in a relationship, but it's the reasons why and knowing that, if you aren't, you are still okay, that are important!! Besides, how can you be good for anyone else until you are good for yourself? Hopefully I'll get to Silva's "I'm great fun to be with" point of view that he has of HIMSELF..but I"m pretty cool to hang around for sure and would be there for my friends in a second

Tawnya