hi shinybear. shorten anything you want here. almost anything! whats changed? W is speaking in unflattering terms of OM. Sees A as symptom of deeper spiritual battle with which i do agree. Where do i stand with OM? I read the column about forgiveness being a gift you give yourself and decided that the only way to move ahead was to forgive him. and her. i know it takes two but is is a lot easier to blame him, so i went to his house and talked to him. he wouldnt come outside at first but finally did only to take a very defensive stance. im sure he thought i was there to thump him. wanted to but decided he wasnt worth the trouble or taking the risk of assult and battery charges or who knows what he would have come up with. i told him that forgiveness is a decision, not a feeling. not sure what he thot of that. dont really care. i know i will have to keep working to remind myself of that fact. where is W living? shes at home with me and the kids. havent seperated. one of the things i do admire about her is that she will not say something just because i want to hear her say it. she has to believe what it is she is saying. make sense? she wont say ILY. not until she knows it to be true. its hard for me to want to hear it and know that she dosent feel it. to write a summary in a word file... im not that computer literate yet. but ill get there. you say that "time and truth are on our side". so true. i just dont want to wait! there is no doubt that this M is worth fighting for and i will keep on DBing. thanks much and ill check back later. k
