If your WAS would agree...

[The Wifey]

I read the book To Good to Leave, To Bad to Stay and I cried. It made the marriage appear to be hopeless. Feel free to tell your H that.

Divorce Remedy is far better. It talks about the POSSIBILITY of saving your m. No guarantees of course, but then there is faith.

Try reading Separated and Waiting, Separated But Not Divorced, and The Power of a Praying Wife. All of them are faith based.

With DB, and these others, you learn to save yourself and step out on faith. Hitting your knees and praying helps a ton, because only He knows the roadmap.