My first step out of Newcomers

[PositivelyMommy]

CIW, would you mind explaining the above. I am very interested in what you said about thinking there might be more of a chance for reconcilation if you detach more and accepted that your M wasn't good. Is it because if you can accept that it was not good, then there are more concrete things you can work on? Therefore have more control over the sitch. That you aren't just dealing with air? Or is it because if you realize that if you detach more then she will have more room to make her choices and then will see the light?

You are sounding stronger in your recent post. I am amazed by your growth. It must be that you are thinking a lot of things through a bit more and that you have accepted the sitch and not fighting it. Sometimes you need to go with the flow to get back to where you started off. It's anti-intuitive but it may be the only way.
It's natural that you hope your W has a hard time adapting to her new life. Of course you want her to miss you, to reminisce about your life together and the happy days. We all wish that. I know she is doing that already. I think a lot of WAW has wavering doubts a lot but they present a picture of perfect stubborness to the LBS so that the LBS would leave them alone once and for all. But deep inside they are torn. They want to be happy but don't know how. They think they have be happier if they changed things around. The mistaken belief is that they are unhappy on the inside and no matter how they change things externally they cannot find peace and happiness. That journey they have to take by themselves.

I see that you are taking that journey and doing well. You are determined to live a happy life with WeeMan. It's good that you say this to yourself repeatedly and believe it. The mind is a very powerful tool. Only you can make yourself happy. Use your mind to make yourself happy.