Hi K. Welcome aboard... I can feel what you feel about you trying and making all the efforts and changes after she was the one who cheated... i felt the same but he was the one who was cheating...!... bc when an A appear not necessarily is bc faults by only one side... and in my case my h didnt want to fix or changes things that keep the R in problems, so he decide to took the easy way to resolve this... OW... But each M is different, each case is different... but surely enough she will need to analyze what was she was doing that didnt catch your attention and maintain you so away from the R for that months... Also, you need to bring her time... i am one of those who thinks that sometimes being in the same house during that process of "knwing what we want" in their minds, sometimes is more difficult for us than being apart... but the key is patience... patience and a lot of self steem... try to work out from a new beggining, trying not to bring open the past and the affair... only talking about both needs... yours too... you too can talk openly to her about your needs and your desires... Welcome aboard again, and excuse my english, im spanish girl... Andrea
