Remember the the process, many of them take this route. By no means is it over.
Your exactly right, when you say that she is not equipped to have a real R.
You know the real wife. Sometimes it is easy to STILL look at them as who they WERE. You know better. Take a look at how this so called relationship with this op formed.
It's a life ring to a person desprately trying to stay a float, trying to avoid sinking and have to take an honest look at where these feelings she has truly stem from. She is using this fake R. Nothing more.
Your emotions will swing like you described, from frustration to anger to sadness then back into perspective. Just allow yourself to feel and press forward my friend.
