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[One Day]

((((Lovely))))

I hope you're having a SUPER AWESOME weekend and shimmiying your delicious melons for all to admire enviously, especially any hot guys!

I just wanted to pick up on a couple of things you posted in response to my earlier round of questions. I promise to try my best not to ask so many this time

I wasn't sleeping well because i was thinking about B... now I'm just having trouble falling asleep for other miscellaneous reasons, but not because I'm thinking about B. Progress!!

Well done you!

Thank you for saying "believe in yourself and brilliance will follow." I think I need to post that somewhere in my apartment!

Wow- that would be so cool!

The reason I'm wondering about the website is--I think on one level he is just trying to include me in what's going on.

Yes, I agree.

I am afraid of stumbling upon evidence of an OW, or looking at his facebook and seeing that it says "in a relationship" or something. So part of me is afraid that if he is with someone else, he would try to let me know by indirectly directing me to look at his facebook or something, instead of just telling me!

So reading this, I'm wondering...... would you see it as something that would stop you DBing if he is in a new relationship? If so, why? What would be the worst that would happen if he is in a new R? I guess my thoughts are that if he's in a new R it allows you to make a decision about how to proceed with your DBing and where you want to go. It could inform your strategy, so to speak.

I am feeling happier now

GOOD NEWS!

I also wondered, are you still DBing? Is the plan still to reconcile with B?

I would say...yes. But part of me is sort of like, "I'm not sure about this guy." I think I am learning to actually put myself first instead of trying to make myself look happy to be more attractive to him.

I am SO PLEASED to hear this! I think this is the essence of DBing- it's not about doing things to look attractive to the WAS, it's learning to feel comfortable with yourself and confident in who you are. That changes how you behave which *may* or may not bring the WAS back. However, it's your best chance for long-term happiness and general attractiveness to everyone....

I am also questioning whether what I am doing is "working", I feel like it's brought me this far but I am not sure there is any movement, and I feel like I need new tools or a new approach. I also feel like I need to take care of other things ... like my own life... right now. Which might be the new approach I need??

I agree with this wholeheartedly. It sounds like you have so many things in flux in your life, and sorting those out should (IMHO) be your priority. Once things are a bit more settled perhaps you can re-evaluate and we can work on some more DBing goals?

I hope that wasn't too question-y. Please feel free to ignore anything I've asked!!

LoveLoveLoveLovelyQueenOfMelontasticGorgeousness!

L. xx