Here's a thought...bet OW will back out because she KNOWS she'd be the one on the "outs" with the group. I wonder if you need to worry about seeing her at all!
And Sage, Oh can I relate to the pile up of anniversary stuff, feeling overwhelmed...
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In MY case as CJ has made it clear that he DOES want to know when and why I'm down, I DID send him an e-mail explaining why I was so upset. He took it very well, and as T2 pointed out, it saved him from worrying that it was something else.
And your H DID say that if you woke and were scared he would be there for you? Did he just mean to hold you, or was that a metaphor for more?
But YOU know best what works in your sitch. And about that book...ANYONE who paints a "you must do.... or you're doomed" picture just sounds rather quacky to me.
Hang in there, it's just time for a little dip for lots of us, it seems.
Quote: me I'd go just for the evilishness about it...I'd go and be as cheery and comfy as possible with the other wives and ignore her...not even give her the decency of eye contact...but we all know I'm a tad evil.
Hey, for added effect you could say "do I know you?" like she really is absolutely NOTHING to you.
GO!!!!
Hold your head up HIGH! She is the OW and I am sure everyone knows it... Go just so the other women can gossip about the drama! YOU are the wonderful human who forgave her H for a MISTAKE that he made. SHE is still who/what she is... (pick whatever name you want). Don't give her power for a MOMENT to keep you away from a friend of yours. I would bet she won't come.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I wonder if you need to worry about seeing her at all!
