It is really enlightening when we look at the 'hidden' messages we are sent. I got one from my W recently. Her Mum has been ill so I questioned her about not telling me. The reply I got was all, how SHE is suffering, how ill SHE might be, what SHE had to do to support MIL. OK. I cna live with that. Tonight howeverm, due to S21 coming to see me, I find that she is off out until the early hours with her BFF. Not THAT poorly then.
What they say is SO self centred it is quite sad to see. I am SO happy that I am away from that and don't need to worry about it.
It does annoy me though, but that is due to me still cycling through the anger and acceptance stages of grief.
But....wow, aint it weird that they ALL act like that.
We are the ones that have learned, adjusted, grown and become better. Let them wallow, they don't and can't understand and far be it for us to try and help.
