You and your girls do not deserve this. He is an @ss. You need to get your self esteem and respect back. Show your girls that it is not ok that this continues.
You will need to swollow the pride pill and ask for help from family and friends. They all want you to be happy also. As far as the D, he has no idea what he can and can't have in the D. That is what lawyers are for and the judges DO NOT look down on stay at home mothers. Actually you could get spousal support while you are going thru the D and possiably after. All you have to do is show proof that you are not able to "support the same standard of living as when you were together". (that is from a lawyer). Check into free legal aid. In MN it was easy and they only asked about your money and nothing else.
I know about the fear of failing should things change but you need to think about the fear of staying and what you are showing your girls.
Protect yourself and the girls. Stay in touch and be careful.
H-41 (alcoholic) Me-38 D-13 SD-10 T-6yrs M-4.75yrs Bomb-10/4/08 Moved in w/OW 11-13-08
