Quoting sage: I think I was already feeling overtired and stressed out and all of a sudden, I just felt this tremendous burden of having to keep this "ship" righted all by myself.
Replying to my own post...how lame...
I did want to say that much of the time I realize that in no way am I keeping the m afloat alone...h has been busting his butt, growing, reaching out, reinforcing, all kinds of wonderful stuff.
What I got hung up on last night was the "how will we keep this from happening again?", "It just won't" conversation that we had...combined with the book which read like "if you can't do these 10 things you are DOOMED" and I just freaked.
What I need to do is take a step back (heck, I'll take two) and see all the things that h is doing to work on "this not happening again" and NOT get hung up on needing to HEAR something just right from him.
Same old bad pattern, slightly different topic.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.