Thanks for your post. It's gives me hope to hear from someone who's seems to have gone through something very similar and lets me see that this story could well have a happy ending after all.
Is my W having a MLC is something that keeps running through my mind. I've read one of the items posted on here by Michelle, I think it was the first chapter of one of her books all about MLC's and I admit that a lot of it rang true.
In answer to your question my W is 33 and the one thing she keeps saying that I've picked up on lately is things like I'm only 33 and I haven't done this, I'm only 33 and I haven't done that, I'm only 33 blah blah blah. Not sure at what age MLC's can occur but I think this does sound like one.
One of my mates W went through something very similar when she hit 30 and went off the rails a little with piercings, tatoos, out clubbing and stuff and this is exactly the same way my W is going.
My W behaviour sounds very similar to how you say your H behaved; ignorant and won't see the bigger picture as she sort of has tunnel vision and is only concerned with what she thinks, blames me for absolutely everything as to why our relationship has hit bad times, the only difference is that she's spending money hand over fist at the moment and is running up more and more debt.
I haven't read that much stuff on the MLC thread but after what you've said I think I may well post something myself on there to gauge the opinion of others and get a bit of sound advice.
You tell me to only believe half of what my wife is telling me at the moment and that is exactly what I've done from the start. She's come out with an awful lot of crap lately but I know it's just in an attempt to hurt me and it's just like water off a ducks back, apparently I'm the ugliest man in the entire world lol but only a few months ago when we were on holiday I heard my W talking to another woman by the pool saying how much of a hunk I am - I've even had my mates mom on the phone saying that if she was 20 years younger... in an attempt to make me see thats my W is talking nonsense.
Not had chance to read any DB yet as I've been keeping my daughter occupied all day so its looks like I'm on the late shift tonight!