Shine like the star you are!

[sage]

the only answer I have for you is that it seems when these things are left unsaid things go much better. Even letting h know that it's still there from time to time despite all the good stuff doesn't go over to well...there are some who are ok talking about the junk, reflecting, openly "getting over it" together while others just give the intial convo and expect the rest to all fall into place.

LL -- actually, it's a relief to hear you say this...there are times when I think I get caught up in the "there's something wrong with you if you can't talk about this stuff" world -- even though I KNOW that NOT having R talks works better for us...and even Michele says "you don't have to talk about every feeling"....

I think that things have been going extremely well in your sit..your h is loving and attentive and so many other things...let his actions show you that things are better that there is nothing to fear...ok so there will never be NOTHING to fear but I'd say right now the junk you are feeling is your own yes a result of h's indiscretion but still your own junk.

I don't know what you could possibly mean by that

Thanks, LL. I think you're right on the money.

Sage