My H says some very mean things to me when we argue, he tells me that I am no good, will never be good enough, that I am flabby, that I am ugly, that he does not love me when we argue, that he hopes my girls will get taken from me if we get a D, tells me that my privates smell because I am always cheating on him, that I should just go sleep with a n***er (please do not get mad at me for quoting my H here, I am trying to tell the truth about my M and I am having to tone down the nasty words that he uses, please don't flag this for the n word.), says I am a gold digger, says that I am not a good mom to my girls. I could go on and on and on.
I have never seen one of these turn around without the abused leaving and the abuser getting serious counsel. Even then it is rare.....
You need to start planning your escape. Find out your rights and what your financial rights are regarding divorce. Do NOT tell your husband you are doing this. Quit believing what he tells you about what "he" will do.
Despite all of that, even if he does get all of what he says he will, it is NOT worth what you are going through. You need to get out even if you get nothing. Start over. You can do it. Don't let fear paralyze you. He has terribly low self esteem and feel he is nothing and wants to bring you down to his leve. All abusers do this. You will never feel better about yourself until you decide that you will take NO MORE OF THIS. PERIOD. Most men who don't trust women and falsely accuse them of wanting other men, are the very men who are secretly doing what they accuse you of behind YOUR back. I would bet he should not be trusted.
