just don't let her be abusive of you in which case don't reward her actions with your attentions - just remove yourself from the situation.
Just so you guys know, she has never, ever been abusive or raised her voice to me. So that is something I never had to worry about.
Maybe that is part of the problem. When we would argue even if I did not yell she would be distant for a couple of days after. or if we ML she would be fine instantly. She NEVER yelled or what ever. She would only come close when I was at my worst.
When she was or seemed distant after a disagreement before the bomb, I would asked her and she always said she was not still mad after our arguments just that her feelings were hurt and it takes time for them to get better.
So its hard to read her. All the nice things she says and does not she thinks she is doing for me as a friend. And cause she is never and I mean NEVER mean in a abusive way it is very hard to read her moods.
Me 41 W 44 Together 7 years Married 6 Bomb Dec 2 08
