You are not missing anything. You have being given a new set of glasses that's all. I think that we ALL come here in the first place to try and get some magic words / advice that would instantly save our Ms. What we ended up with is something much more beneficial. A new found self belief. To me, without this, I would have been living a lie if I had reconciled. Now I know that I am worth more to myself and others by looking at life through my new glasses and seeing things clearly for the first time in years.
What we get out of this interaction is different for everyone, some reconcile and become happier than ever, some don't and become happier than ever.
As long as we eventually find happiness and peace, what the actual sitch is that leads us there is irrelevant.
So I repeat, you are missing nothing, you have gained, not lost.
