What was it that you read that changed your mind? I'd love to read it.
It was an E-book called "Women's Infidelity" by Michelle Langley. There are actually 2 parts, book I and book 2, but they are worth the price. I don't remember how much it was b/c it was a couple of years ago, but it was well worth it to get my eyes open. It talks about how she desires to have the "in love" feelings and so when she is in an A, she gets that b/c there is a certain chemical (can't remember the name) but it is released into her brain and makes her feel fantastic. I can testifiy to that, b/c I experienced it. Anyway, it is like a drug you get addicted to and when it begin to fade and that affair breaks up, she goes looking for another b/c she wants that "feeling" again. It is that feeling she craves....not the man himself. But as with other drugs, the more she involves herself in that, the more she needs to satisfy her needs. What happens it that after a while, nothing will give her those feelings anymore. It is like it kind of burns those brain cells up (my words, not the books) and she gets where she doesn't have any love feelings left available for anyone. Her life begins a downward spiral effect trying to find a man that will give her those great feelings again, but it doesn't happen b/c the chemicals don't rush into her brain like they did that first time or two. I suppose it is kind of like some other drugs in the more your partake of it, the less affect it has until you hit rock bottom. That is what happens to the women who crave those "in-love" brain chemicals. They go from man to man seeking that good feeling again, until they hit rock bottom. It is tragic to read how things can turn out. I had come on the board by that time, and had read what people were telling me, but when I actually read those two short books, it got my undivided attention.
I think, though, you can just go into search and type in some key words like "feel good brain chemicals" or "in love brain chemicals"....something like that to get you going into the medical terms of how it happens. I also did that to discover what people were telling me was a scientific fact and not just something somebody made up to scare WAS's. This is my own opinion based partly on my belief system, but I think the way women are made up differently, I believe that it has a greater affect on women than men....but that is strickly a personal opinion. Anyway, I don't know if the books are still available on line, but you could probably get the other information, anyway. Good luck.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
