He was never like this before. He was a fairly decent guy.(Except for finding out that he was probably cheating on me most of the time).
Yeah, addicts are usually pretty agreeable when you don't mess with their stash. It's when it gets taken away, or exposed to the light of the day that they often get nasty.
We're always here for you, just like you are ALWAYS here for us. I hope your day today is a better one. You really are a strong, beautiful, caring woman and I know you will get through this just fine. When you have those bad days, you know you can count on us. Hugs to you.
Today is going better, thanks. I got my state refund check yesterday so I took the kids to replace their shoes and get the boys some clothes. They are growing so fast, I can barely keep up! S13 didn't want to go at first, and I said I need to spend this before the filing next week. I am trying to get some things done that need to be done. Then he was okay.
We found him about 5 new shirts, pants and shoes! lol I admire that he is so respectful of my financial situation though. I must have done something right.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I checked to see when I was going to get my Fed(since I have to spend it before I can file). Last week it said I would have it by 2/24. I checked my account to see if it was showing up since they pay on Fridays. It wasn't there, so I check the IRS site again and now it says I should have it by 3/3/09!!!
I have been in angst over this whole thing for so long and was kind of relieved that this was going to be mostly done next week. Now I may have to postpone it another week or two or I will lose the refund(it is over $3000, so I really don't want to lose it).
Let's all cross our fingers and hope it comes tomorrow anyway!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Ex came by today( he was going to take D10 to her flute lesson and d8 to get her glass frames picked out)but my B Lawyer appt. got pushed to next weekend. Anyway, he is test driving a 4 year old car. Yes it is pretty and all but what is he thinking??? He just filed B!! Maybe Mommy and Daddy are going to buy it for him so that he can move in with skank.
I get so frustrated by all the things that are going "well" in his life while mine is stuck waiting on a Federal refund and I am pushing back the idea of meeting anyone until that is behind me. Sometimes it feels as if there really isn't justice in the world and that nice guys really do finish last.
So I suppose I am a bit blue today because of the delays in my life. I will get over it, I always do.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Sometimes it feels as if there really isn't justice in the world and that nice guys really do finish last.
Hey sister,
I hear you on that one. Just think how long this has gone on for and how close it is to the end. At least you are smart enough to realize you are not ready to meet someone yet instead of adding additional drama to your life. You are doing great. One day at a time.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
I get so frustrated by all the things that are going "well" in his life while mine is stuck waiting on a Federal refund and I am pushing back the idea of meeting anyone until that is behind me. Sometimes it feels as if there really isn't justice in the world and that nice guys really do finish last.
kat
I think he's going through a lot the same as you, the B and the D, but he's just way less self-aware. Maybe that's a good way to be, but eventually I think it'll hit him. Maybe he's in denial or something if he's actually happy with what's going on in his life? I truly think if you fast forward a few years from now, you're going to be with someone who's kind, faithful, and hot and be way better off than your H who's prob. still going to be messed up and realizing he lost the best thing in his life (you). Karen
Thanks for the kind words and sweet thoughts. Bryan has to grow up someday and Mommy and Daddy won't be around to pick up the pieces forever. I was talking to my Dad yesterday, not about the D or B but just about knowing something has to be done and doing it, getting it done. I get it from him. It may not always be the easy road but it is the road I pick.
I am not sure if ex is getting any of it. In our argument earlier this week he was constantly saying get past it. Quit living in the past. My whole "issue" is that ex never discussed/resolved anything with me. He didn't want to face any problems with me so ultimately decided that he didn't love me. So we have never resolved anything together about it and we won't I am sure.
So I face what I can about it on my own and know that he wasn't strong enough to face down his demon(in the form of skank) and went off blindly down the road. Lots of broken promises left in his wake.
I don't know why in our arguments that he goes for the juggler and hurts me to my very core. I already have doubts about my future with another man and he throws out in his nasty way that it will be at least 10 years before I find anyone that would have me. I hope that isn't true but it could be.
I guess I am not as healed as I thought if he can still hurt me. Well back on the horse I guess.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I don't know why in our arguments that he goes for the juggler and hurts me to my very core. I already have doubts about my future with another man and he throws out in his nasty way that it will be at least 10 years before I find anyone that would have me. I hope that isn't true but it could be.
I guess I am not as healed as I thought if he can still hurt me. Well back on the horse I guess.
kat
You're human. H told me that I would NEVER find a man that would want me b/c I'm so messed up. I don't think either of them are right!!! I mean, come on, those 2 found Rs and look at them, middle-aged cheating lying men going through B and foreclosure in my case. I've often thought who the heck would be interested in that? But I guess people put on their rose-colored glasses or beer goggles or whatever and it makes everyone look better than they really are. And don't forget we are the hottest 44-year old women around!!! Karen
