Quote: The answer is, of course, that I won't go steamrolling ahead and tell him all of these things...is there something I can tell him, though?
sorry sage,
the only answer I have for you is that it seems when these things are left unsaid things go much better. Even letting h know that it's still there from time to time despite all the good stuff doesn't go over to well...there are some who are ok talking about the junk, reflecting, openly "getting over it" together while others just give the intial convo and expect the rest to all fall into place.
I think that things have been going extremely well in your sit..your h is loving and attentive and so many other things...let his actions show you that things are better that there is nothing to fear...ok so there will never be NOTHING to fear but I'd say right now the junk you are feeling is your own yes a result of h's indiscretion but still your own junk.
let's not forget the words you heard last week "if you wake up and are scared, wake me and I'll keep you safe" that among the many other things you're hearing and seeing sage should say something to you.
