No, I don't think he should be holding this over your head if he has any interest in the M. I have told my W I wouldn't hold it over her head, but she doesn't care anyways.
Ya gotta do what ya gotta do. I'm glad you aren't the one filing. If he wants it, he should be the one to do it.
I hope the basketball game goes well for you and try not to focus to much on what is going on. You are setting yourself up for your future for you and your kids. Hopefully he will come around, but if not, then at least you know you will be able to take care of yourself.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
