She can't make up her mind

[saffie]

Bariga,

Puppy's comment didn't really mean anything really...apart from your W's mind is messed up with ahving friendship with OM still. She is in effect playing you off against one another.

Really you must look at your W's actions and not her words.

Also, please remember that whatever the outcome you need to be strong and survive.

Now think about this....your W is quite correct, she didn't marry him, she married you. Now why would that be? What made them split last time? Whatever it is is likely to do it again in the future....and I would guess the not too far future as they have previous form and will get to the 'familiarity breeding contempt' bit pretty quickly - the romantic high's, I would have thought, will be a faster stage for them than two relative strangers that have got together. Does this make sense?

Hold your course. be decisive. Your W seems to be looking at you to see you 'man up' and be responsible. Not keep questioning her every move.

If YOU want to move someplace new and that will benefit you then DO it. I am sure if it will benefit you then it should only benefit your M and make the chances that your W comes back to you higher. If she doesn't come back then you are in a better position for you anyway.

BTW, Puppy is away this weekend at a marital retreat with the Retrouvaille organisation. It might be worth looking up their details yourself as they could help your M too.

I know this is so very hard and I am sorry this is happening.