the group that I attend is very supportive but they are not prying or aware of anything that is happening.
I think in some ways my wife really need the space from me and has been staying away from relating to OM and other relationships. She is aware and hurt that I am jealous and weary of her relationships. But she is also upset that I spoke to him and confronted him and is keeping her distance now.
every women in the group feels very comfortable talking to OM as he is blind and they actually "babysit" quite alot. he's a very good listener and connects very well with all the ladies in the group. My wife is immersing herself with work and she does not have time for anything else.
I'm taking your suggestions and I'm also reading alot of others like John Gray's Men are from Mars.
I'm keeping my contacts with OM minimal and will also not let him know any details of DB.
OM has not acknowledged that there is anything going between both of them but is feeling bad that he has caused a strong drift and wedge between us. He feels tri-angulated but knows now that he has to stay away so that we could heal and deal with our MR.
Things are pretty calm for now as I continue to give her space, watch what I say, speak very little, keep smiling and just enjoy the little things in life, I'm actually feeling lighter, more relaxed and less pressured to fix our MR but more motivated to enjoy and rediscover myself.
thanks for your support and patience, you're doing a wonderful job. keep up your great work.
