Shine like the star you are!

[sage]

I don't think I've ever completely allowed my H to be himself. I always tried to control him or make excuses for him to other people when he didn't behave just as I thought they thought he should. Does that make sense?

Perfect sense because I've lived it.

I honestly don't know WHY I'm able to do this now...I guess a combination of almost losing what I love (who I love) coupled with some wonderful books and meditation and my friends here on the board but...it's just so much easier to just BE and to just let him BE. It's amazing to me that I ever thought it would work another way.

Three books I would recommend to anyone interested are:

1. Love is Letting Go of Fear by Gerald G., Jampolsky
2. Men are from Mars...John Gray
and
3. The four agreements -- Don Miguel Ruiz

Ah, I guess I'd add the "Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman too.

I don't want to give ANYONE the impression that I'm stepford wiving my way around my house... It's more that I've realized that I can only control the stuff I'm doing. And, it's also about just not getting riled up about some of the littler stuff..oh, and a whole bunch of other things.

I figure it was a darned good lesson to learn no matter what the outcome of my m.

Sage

PS "DR" is obviously # 1 on my list and goes without saying!