I'm visiting your thread for inspiration! I like to read some of the "piecing" threads; lets me believe that I too can be here one day.
You just nailed it with this message: I don't think I've ever completely allowed my H to be himself. I always tried to control him or make excuses for him to other people when he didn't behave just as I thought they thought he should. Does that make sense? In the past few weeks I've come to realize that what matters is that you are loved the way I was and not what other people think you should be or where other people think you should be. It may be too late for us but I'm glad I FINALLY realized it regardless.
Thanks again for all your help and support. minnie
