Shine like the star you are!

[sage]

"Maybe it's about creating an environment where he feels as though he can be who he really is..."

That is exactly what H says he has always missed in our M. H said that he never felt like he could be himself with me. I continue to show H he can be himself with me. I try to not be demanding, controlling or judgemental now. It seems to be working, but VERY slowly. nik

Hi Nik,
Yes..it's good that your h told you, no? My h said it as "It's never felt right". I'm ASSuming but with time I've figured out that he likely means "I've never felt like I can be me".

I regret how much I tried to control/change him. it's liberating to let him be...and you know what??? Who he is is pretty darned awesome! I couldn't see that while I was so busy telling him what he SHOULD be doing, how he SHOULD be doing it, etc.

Sage